Separation and divorce and the events that follow them, interrupt the stableness and mental state of the children terribly. These are events that are not sudden. They are caused as a long stretched undue disturbed relationship.
During the stage more than any one else it is the children who are most affected.
It is really sad that children have to face all this so young. If you are one of the many who is having a disturbed child because of your separation then, be careful that you should take special care that your child comes out of this crisis as soon as possible. Also before you yourself have completely recovered from the issues.
Kids find it difficult to relate to people in such situations. They find it difficult to discuss family issues with anyone. They are sacred of people just because of a breaking relation they see every single day. They go through terrible loss and uneasiness and unhappiness.
Children may fear to be abandoned or losing their parents’ love. Also, for many reasons, parenting abilities frequently worsen around the time of the divorce. Kids may start feeling guilty about causing the divorce. Teenagers very often feel nervous, lonesome, and doleful. Some engage in drug and alcohol use, sex, burglary, and violence. Others may develop eating problems, become mutinous, skip faculty, or join peers who are joining in risk-taking behaviors. Kids must be able to demonstrate their emotions to an adult who listens attentively.
Parents should never suggest that their youngsters take sides and should try to not express negative feelings about the other parent to their kids. Parents should discuss issues overtly, truthfully, and calmly with their youngsters ; remain loving with them ; continue to discipline constantly ; and maintain standard expectancies concerning chores and schoolwork.
Most kids regain a feeling of security and support inside roughly a year after divorce if the parents adjust and work to meet the kid’s wants. For a kid, remarriage of either parent can only create more problems but should taken care wih a sense of stability and permanency. Since if handled reasonably by all the adults concerned some kids readily accept the change bound in their life